The real reason you haven't written your book


What’s the real reason you haven’t written the book you’ve dreamed about for so long?

It’s not lack of motivation. Over the years you’ve internalized enough solid motives to get your book written.

It’s not a lack of time. If I ask you what’s happening on Scandal or House of Cards or 13 Reasons Why or whatever your TV shows are I’m sure you’ll be able to fill me in. (No judgment here. We all have our vices.)  The point is….you have time.

It’s not that you’re in a permanent state of writer’s block. That’s impossible. As Seth Godin wrote, “No one ever gets talker’s block.” It just doesn’t happen. Everyone has something to say, which means everyone has something to write. That includes you. 

It’s not that you don’t know where to start. There are enough outlining tips, getting started blogs, podcasts, and books you can use for guidance.

So, what is it?

It’s fear.

Fear disguises itself as the obstacle  (lack of time, discipline, motivation, inspiration, etc)

I’m guessing you can relate to some of these thoughts:

I’m not a writer

I can’t write well

What if I don’t finish?

What if no one reads it?

What if people hate it?

What if I start writing and then run out of ideas?

What if people think I’m an idiot or fraud or illiterate or…?

Maybe I’ll end up sharing a story that hurts someone in my family

Maybe I’ll say something that goes against the industry and get black-listed

But my Journalism/English Literature/XYZ teacher once told me writing isn’t my forte. At the time, I believed her. I still believe her.

When I try to write, I feel stupid

When I published that last article, nobody commented. Maybe that’ll happen with my book, except they won’t even buy it.

When I tell my loved one/friends/family that I’m writing a book, they laugh. Loudly

My platform isn’t big enough

My followers aren’t raving enough

My ideas aren’t original enough

on and on

I’m sure you can add to this list.

And you want to know something?

I can refute every single one of those doubts. And most importantly, so can you.

Let’s demolish most of them right now:

*You’re already a writer. There’s no pre-requisite needed, just the desire.

*There’s someone, somewhere, right now searching for a book just like the one you want to write. Except they won’t find it. Why not? Because you haven’t written it yet.

*You will face rejection and criticism. It’s inevitable. But guess what? You’ll live. I’m yet to hear of someone who died from being criticized.

*You don’t need to write a best-seller. In fact, you can write a cheesy book or one that you would make your mom cringe or a book about something so fun, but taboo and off-the-wall (if you’re into that type of thing). That’s why there are pen names. Choose one (I’ve done this twice, and the anonymity is so much fun).

*You can even write a book and never publish publicly, just share it with your loved ones, and use it as a stepping stone and for building confidence to write your next, which will be longer or more ‘professional’.

*Don’t be intimidated by size.  Unless you have an agency book deal looming, you can write a short book with just enough in it to inspire/inform/entertain. I’ve done that, too, and it’s so rewarding.

I’m not telling you what to write, I just want to tear down the false notion that there is some out of reach, War and Peace type standard to writing your book. If you’re holding yourself up to standards like that, you’ll never measure up. Ever!

And who knows? Once you start writing, you might end up with a masterpiece. Or not. But you’ll never know unless you write.

“If we had to say what writing is, we would have to define it essentially as an act of courage.” Cynthia Ozick

To write consistently, deeply, you need to build writing courage.

And I’d like to help you.

I’ve created the Writing Courage Challenge to share every exercise and mindset tool I know to build your writing courage. The goal is to help you to face your big, dreamy writing projects (like a book or eCourse or series of published articles) with courage. 

The challenge lasts 14 days. It’s your jumpstart.  

Let’s be clear, it will take much more than just 14 days to build courage, but by day 14, you’ll be on a roll and will have a stronger sense of awareness and tools to write courageously. That’s my wish for you.

What do you get when you sign up for the challenge?

You get 14 days of courage building. No matter when you’re reading this, I’ve set up the challenge so that once you enter your email address (below), your challenge will start tomorrow. You’ll receive one email a day for the 14 days.

The format of the emails will vary. Some days it’ll be a quick audio, other days you’ll have an exercise to complete. Each day is building upon the last to strengthen those courage muscles.

The challenge will cover three main themes:

1. Quieting your inner critic

2. Building and sustaining the courage to connect with your true voice and write from that space

3. Sharing your work (without feeling crippling hesitation and worry)

I like to keep it real: Some of the tasks will feel uncomfortable. I will be giving you gentle nudges to do a few things that may be just outside of your comfort zone.  That’s the point. You are incrementally challenging yourself to build those courage muscles and develop a few habits that push through the fear and get you writing consistently and deeply.

Your challenge starts tomorrow.

When you sign up today, you’ll receive a welcome email with a few tools to get you ready for the challenge. 

Sign up by entering your email address:

Let’s do this!



Writing for love and money
Both take courage

I write for love (of the craft)

I write for money (my writing work makes up a chunk of my income)

A couple of times a month, I send out an email with a personal story and a lesson on writing for love and writing for money, and the courage it takes to do both.

You should sign up (of course, I'm only slightly biased). 

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I'm a writer and storyteller currently living in London and juggling multiple creative projects. I’d like to say that it's always easy, but the truth is there are times when things get messy. Still, it's the life I've chosen, and I love it. My intention is to keep my projects spinning and stay true to my voice.